Communication is the key to having a healthier relationship, not just in a romantic way but in general. One way to express your love and care for someone is through our different love language. It is a concept developed by marriage counselor Gary Chapman to identify how a person prefers to express and receive the love they are feeling.
Today, we welcome the month of love, February, and on the 14th, we celebrate Valentine’s Day, an annual festival where love and peace dominates the world. And It is the time where you can show your love language to your loved ones. So you better check these five love languages than you need to know.
What is your Love Language?
1. Is it Physical touch?
- It is a non-verbal action thus, the touch you give expresses love and affection. Those whose love language is physical touch are clingy, and a simple touch means everything to them. Also, physical contact gives out feelings of being secure and at peace. They want to feel your warmth and your presence around them through hugs and cuddling.
How to communicate: Put your arm around your partner or try the HHWW method, holding hands while walking. You can also surprise them with a hug or a kiss out of nowhere. These actions are usually done but this will mean a lot to them. Be more physically affectionate, especially this valentines day!
2. Is it an Act of service?
- Having an act of service in your relationship can help you and your partner grow because you will learn to help each other. This is where the vow, in sickness and in health comes in because the act of services is usually tested through time. You must have the will and the effort to commit with your actions as well. But it does not necessarily mean you have to go big time for them, a simple service for your partner will eventually melt their hearts.
How to communicate: This involves performing tangible acts for your partner like you can help them do some chores, finish a task together or even by simply cooking a meal for them. Volunteer to finish their paperwork or do some of their grocery errands. This will make them feel your love the most. So if your partner wants you to cook something for them, maybe this is their love language?
3. Is it giving Words of Affirmation?
- This love language uses words to comfort and affirm their other half. Though sometimes it’s often misunderstood as sensitive but it is not, all they want is simple phrases to remind them how they are loved daily. Affirming them boosts their inner spirit and self-confidence. A simple appreciation can make their day more wonderful than usual.
How to communicate: Express your love by appreciating their beauty, their fashion, and efforts just to show how grateful you are. They want to be complimented and praised. Shower them with flowering words and encourage them often. For example, you can tell them “good morning, you look more enchanting than the sun outside” or “good evening, the moon’s light is nothing compared to the light you gave me”. Sounds cheesy right? But kidding aside, a simple “you are beautiful today” is enough to brighten their day.
4. Is it giving Quality time?
- Create romantic moments together and spend more time with your partner. It does not necessarily mean that you have to be with them 24 hours a day, just be with them even just for an hour or two. Focus your attention towards them and you will see how much they will value it. Feel the moment and make the most out of it.
How to communicate: One-on-one time is important because they prefer uninterrupted and deep conversations. For instance, you can watch some movies, watch the sunset on the beach, or have a simple picnic date. Take a rest from work and have a simple getaway because your presence is beyond important.
5. Is it Receiving gifts?
- If your partner loves receiving gifts, then this is their love language. Thoughtfulness is the key that adds spice to the relationship and it is usually applied when you give gifts. It is not about how affordable or extravagant your gift is, it is about the meaning and the reason behind it.
How to communicate: Unexpected gifts for your partner is really important. Give them roses and flowers or letters and candies. These might be small things for you but this will surely make them feel loved and appreciated.
One of the important factors in love is to identify what’s your love language and the love language of your partner! In that way, both of you will have this mutual understanding upon how you make each other feel extraordinary, cared for, and loved. Friends can also share their love languages but it is more common for couples and it is the best way to maintain a good relationship with your partner. Nonetheless, whatever your love language will be, stay faithful and committed to your partner.
