Imagine waking up in your neighborhood to a commotion caused not by a petty fight, but by your neighbor Ana’s return from Canada with her CANADIAN FIANCEE! “Isa nanamang pinay ang nakaahon sa buhay”, my marites neighbor whispered.
Seriously, the stigma of a Filipina marrying a foreigner, particularly a white foreigner, has become so toxic that it disparages Filipino women. We have this preconceived notion that when a Filipina marries a foreigner, it is solely for financial reasons.
Apparently, it’s not all about the money. When you marry a foreigner, you get more than just money on the table.
Check out below 10 amazing reasons why we should consider dating a foreigner.
- You get to master a new language. A person’s ability to communicate in your native tongue will undoubtedly be a major obstacle in a marriage with a foreign partner. However, anyone who is serious about getting together with that man will put in the time and effort to become fluent in that man’s native tongue. That’s the absolute bare minimum, honey.
- You explore and taste new food. Yes, indeed! Because Filipinos are natural food hunters, experiencing diverse foods from other countries is something we should look forward to.
- You meet diverse fascinating people. Different countries imply not only different languages, but also different people. When you start dating a foreigner, you can expect to start dating his foreign friends and family as well, which means you’ll meet a variety of people with different mindsets and perspectives on life. That is something we should strive for in life because when we meet people with diverse beliefs and convictions, we learn something that benefits our personal growth, and who doesn’t want to mature?
- You get to learn another culture and traditions. After meeting diverse people of differing perspectives in life, your chances of becoming a dynamic person increase as we learn about their various cultures and traditions. It’s a clear advantage for a person to be familiar with traditions and cultures other than our own because, who knows, you might want to start a business in the future, and knowing a country’s business culture is one way to ensure you get a deal with your investors.
- You’ll see different tourist destinations from their country. Who doesn’t want to go on a trip? Aside from the Philippines, everyone wishes to visit at least one other country. Travel pushes us out of our comfort zones, inspiring us to see, taste, and try new things. It constantly challenges us not only to adapt to and explore new surroundings, but also to engage with new people, to embrace new and meaningful experiences, and to share them with friends and loved ones.
- You see amazing things like nature. Oh well, it sounds ironic, but even if you see or live in a peaceful nature in the Philippines, you still want to be enthralled by the nature of other countries. Being in nature, or even watching nature scenes, reduces anger, fear, and stress while increasing pleasant feelings. Nature not only makes you feel better emotionally, but it also improves your physical health by lowering blood pressure, heart rate, muscle tension, and the production of stress hormones, and who doesn’t want that?
- Marrying a foreigner introduces you to a new way of life. It’s not just your man and his family you marry when you tie the knot. As a result of meeting his family, you will learn and adapt to his family’s customs and traditions. Marrying a foreigner will alter your outlook on life as a whole. Once you begin socializing with his family, all of the rumors and stereotypes will be dispelled.
- Learn about the country where your loved one is from. Aren’t you excited to grasp knowledge about the country you are soon to be residing (well, not in all cases)? You should be, because it would be a clownery if you start living in a place without knowing even their way of saying hello. Living abroad also makes you more aware of the many fascinating cultures that are all around you all the time. While walking down the street, you’ll hear people speaking in languages you previously ignored, and you might even find yourself branching out a little more in the grocery store or at one of your local international cafes. A new world of opportunities will open up for you as your awareness of the global community grows.
- You get to escape from your family’s toxic culture. When you marry a foreigner, chances are you’ll really have to live in your husband’s country. Which means, a great way to escape from your family’s culture of giving back when you’re successful even to your extended family. I mean, it’s not that I don’t like giving back because believe me, I really love giving, but when abuse comes, that’s when I start to drift off. Filipino family culture, like instilling in your mind that you owe everything to everyone, even your neighbor who does anything but to talk ill about you when you’re still striving, is really definitely toxic! So, stepping out of your hometown and country is one great way to start over.
- Lastly, your future kids will benefit from learning from combined cultures. Have you ever watched baby or toddler videos speaking from different languages? Isn’t it adorable? Bet you want to have a multicultural baby huh? Well, that’s possible when you marry a foreigner. You get to have beautiful and handsome genes, a multilingual and multicultural kid/s. That’s absolutely something to look forward to when you marry a foreigner.
We may have wrong beliefs about a filipina marrying a foreigner, but if you ever been in a situation where you start falling in love with a foreigner, do not suppress it. When we do something, we will always get unsolicited feedback and advice, so why not do whatever makes us happy? Whether you get labeled as someone you are not, love any way!
